Finding closure within my heart became very important for me when my father died. 

Before he died, he wasn’t able to tell me he loved me. We didn’t express things like that to each other – I never knew why. 

As he lay dying, I told him I loved him, and he said, ‘I know’—nothing in return. 

It was like a stake through my heart.

It left me with a feeling of something I couldn’t put my finger on until I trained in shamanism:

I hadn’t had closure.

His death had left me with an unfinished emptiness I thought I would never get over. 

I struggled with this for years until I found a way to seek closure within my own heart. 

I found peace through shamanic practice and Sacred Closure and moved on from that story which only held me back. 

Finding closure implies completely accepting what has happened and finding ways to honour the transition, but that can be very difficult to do in certain situations.

It’s human nature to seek closure, and we can find it almost impossible to move forward if we don’t have the type of closure we want, especially if we don’t have access to the people or situations from which we need closure. 

The power of the past holds us ‘in place’.

But finding closure isn’t impossible. 

Working with Sacred Closure involves a few key steps:

Know that closure can be hard to reach.

You may have to perform many ceremonies and find serious willpower to move on from a person or event truly.

That’s OK. Try not to feel shame or frustration, as this will choke the process. In contrast, try not to be a victim to the past – wallowing and using the past as an excuse to stay where you are; it’s a tight rope of balance!

Know you are not alone. Call on your spiritual team, reach out to a professional and pull out your spiritual tool kit.

You need to decide to let go; closure comes from within. If you are still holding on to the notion that you will one day understand the behaviour of a deeply disturbed person, for example, that’s unlikely. It is impossible to make sense of madness in another. And why would we want to go there anyway? It’s a dark and dangerous place.

Take your power back. Move on if you are waiting to hear from someone else who has not been willing to communicate with you. This person may get in touch one day, and then you can decide at that point what to do.Don’t worry about it in the meantime.